We’ve probably all been reading and hearing
a lot about finding the right “fit” as your high school student begins
investigating colleges. It’s sometimes
difficult to keep focused on researching what schools might provide both the
best educational and social environment with all the hype about getting into
the most prestigious college. Just last
week when I was advising undergraduate students at
So as your teen develops a college list try
to avoid saying or even thinking that phrase—“getting into” college. By carefully choosing schools that match
academic and extracurricular interests as well as learning environment, your
child will enhance a successful outcome to the college search.
As summer approaches I find myself feeling
both curious and impatient about which schools my daughter Lily is adding to
her list. I’m trying to let her approach
me with observations and questions rather than pelt her with my own. However, I think there are a few ways to
initiate a healthy conversation. You
might look over the college search books I mentioned in an earlier blog post
for suggestions.
Also, I recommend a book called College Admissions Together: It Takes a
Family by Seven Goodman and Andrea Leiman.
It contains helpful role plays and exercises you can use to begin to let
your child take on more independence and responsibility in this process. The first exercise in chapter 1, “Role
Reversal 101” is particularly effective in helping different family members
appreciate one another’s perspectives.
Don’t forget the role of high school
guidance and college counselors as well as independent college consultants in
the process.
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